What happens in Video Mirror Feedback®?
- Most sessions take place face-to-face online by using a confidential platform. Together, we create an atmosphere of non-judgment and curiosity. The first session picks up where your initial phone consultation left off. We review your specific goals and the deadline you may have . Sessions run 90 minutes unless you decide to upgrade to two hours.
. . . - Before any recording takes place, we carefully explore any concerns you have about being recorded and/or watching yourself. You decide when you’re ready.
. . . - We decide what kinds of interactions between you and me would be useful for you to observe, and together, tailor a plan uniquely suited to your goals. How we proceed depends on whether you want to improve your social skills and/or job performance, prepare for an interview or public talk, resolve a problem or dilemma, or deepen your understanding of yourself and your actions. When you feel ready, the camera is turned on.
. . . - When that interaction comes to its natural close, we observe it. Most clients are surprised by positive qualities they were unaware of. After a few minutes in the non-judgmental atmosphere we create, most people recognize old habits of mind that contribute to whatever has been bothering them or holding them back. Often, a certain laugh, gesture, or eye movement become clues to the unconscious patterned thinking that has been limiting your life.
. . . - We discuss the feedback you’re getting from the video and explore how you want to use it in the next recording. We may film and watch several short recordings each time we meet.
. . . - The positive feedback loop generated by your recordings makes it easier to…
–see what change looks like — immediately!
–integrate new skills and habits of mind into our next recorded interaction;
–decide exactly what you want to change. Small changes go a long way;
–map out your options and next steps. Exactly how will you incorporate new
. .skills into your relationships at home and work?
BONUS
Receive the seventh session free
when you pay in full for the six-session
Interview Preparation package
Is there support between sessions?
Yes. We use brief emails or phone calls to help you stay on track toward your goals and put the inner and outer shifts you’ve experienced into daily practice.
Can we have a conversation before I invest in Video Feedback Coaching? –
Yes, everyone who applies has a complimentary 20-min phone consultation that will clarify how this coaching tool can best support your journey. Call me at 413-522-0789 and let me know the best times to call you back.
Are sessions 100% confidential? –Yes, I adhere to the principles of ethical practice embodied in Code of Ethics of the National Board for Certified Counselors
Where does the feedback come from? –With my guidance, you take the lead in interpreting what you see and hear in the video clips we make. My expertise includes
- collaborating with you to create a context of curiosity, empathy, and acceptance where you can use the video’s feedback to your maximum benefit.
- offering guidance that smooths the way to deeper self-knowledge, more skillful communication, and more meaningful relationships.
Your questions are welcome!
How has video feedback impacted my own life?
In 2005, my husband and I filmed ourselves in a couples session. The instant, vivid feedback we received motivated us to start communicating differently with each other.
Within days, we were enjoying each other’s company more. Having witnessed how we definitely did NOT want to be, it was a lot easier than we expected to shift old habits. To this day, the lively memory of that feedback continues to help us move through life as a team.
What happens to my recordings?
You have the option of deleting the recording before you leave my office. Most people ask me to keep it for use at our next meeting. If you like, your recordings can also be downloaded to your laptop to reinforce your discoveries on your own or with another practitioner. The download takes only a few minutes and 800MB of storage. DVD’s are also available. (See next question.)
If I already have a coach or therapist, can I show my recordings to them?
Yes, I encourage this. Video Feedback Coaching deepens and reinforces work you may be doing with other practitioners. Likewise, sharing the results of your VFC sessions helps integrate them into your life.
How did it work for therapists who tried it?
Inspired to verify VFC’s effectiveness, I conducted supervised research with licensed psychotherapists schooled in a range of perspectives. Ten out of ten participating therapists rated the session they had with me “effective” and “useful.” More than half added “very” to these ratings.
All agreed that VFC strongly contributes to development of the kind of self-awareness that leads to lasting healing, growth, and change. The enthusiastic response of these professionals only strengthened my belief that VFC is a powerful complement to talk therapy and other intentional growth practices.
Can I have Video Feedback Coaching sessions online?
Yes! We have the technology and it’s improving all the time. This is now the way I meet with most of my clients.
How do I know whether a 90-min or two-hour session would be more effective for me?
Clients tell me that time passes very quickly in our sessions thanks to how engaging, enjoyable, and productive they are. Two-hour sessions make it possible to take advantage of the momentum created by this high degree of engagement and enjoyment.
How many months of Video Feedback Coaching are recommended?
My experience and research studies have shown that most people succeed in making lasting changes when they invest at least six months in practicing the changes in a purposeful and mindful way. This was certainly true for the woman who lost 50 pounds over the course of seven months with me. She went on to lose 20 more pounds on her own. Her comments appear on the Testimonials page.
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